3 Effects of crying on our personal development
Did you know that human beings are not the only animals that feel sad? Almost all animals express sadness, depression, and loneliness. In fact, almost all mammals mourn the loss of their children.
But we beings are the the only animal taught that self-expression should be repressed. Boys are told that crying is cowardly and girls that crying a lot will drive them crazy.
What we are not told is that crying is actually essential and is something we must do more often if we feel that it is what we have to do to express ourselves.
We develop a resistance to crying, which causes emotional suppression, which in turn causes physical and psychological complications. We repress our emotions and expect them to take care of themselves, when the true cure to our problem is sometimes as simple as allowing ourselves to vent for a moment.
Contrary to what society tells us, crying is very healthy and should be as natural as smiling.
1. It allows you to go further
Every time I cry, more and more bubbles rise in my head without realizing it was there. For example, Anger is the typical defense mechanism to hide pain and fear. When you allow yourself to see beyond From anger and pain, you will find that you are angry because you feel pain or are afraid of feeling pain again.
When you are aware that you are in pain, you will begin to cry and discover why. What starts with a cry for seeing your boyfriend talking to another girl ends in you crying for feeling rejected by all the male figures in your life and for the fear that men will not accept you.
And crying over this makes you really realize that you want your father to be with you, which makes you realize that you would not feel so insecure in your relationship if you fixed your relationship with your father. The more you cry, the more information rises from your unconscious mind.
2. Clear your energy field
Crying is to your energy field what showering is to your body. Release emotions and feelings and get energy that moves through your chakras. Your body is not stupid. You know what you need to feel and when. It's just a matter of allowing yourself to feel what you feel and overcoming any social pressure that prevents you from opening up to your own emotions.
Repressed emotions make our energy fields tense. To let them go completely, you cannot just let them go in your mind, you must also let them go in your energy field. Cry Break free.
3. Prevents serious health problems
Suppressing emotions can lead to serious health problems. There are more and more currents and theories that bet on the idea that psychological problems often translate into physical problems. For example, if you have a defense mechanism that turns pain into anger and it is stored in you as anger, your body is literally being poisoned by the amount of stress hormones it is releasing.
ANDl 90% of all illnesses are caused or made worse by stress, and burying emotions causes stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, to be produced in your body. Crying is a way of physiological release. It is the way in which the body is designed to process and handle emotions, but if we force it against its natural reactions it will always end up affecting us on the other hand.
It's like trying not to sweat. Sweat is the way your body cools itself, if you were able to suppress it you would cause your body to overheat. The same can be said for tears. I have cried lately about various things, sometimes in public and sometimes in front of family members who hadn't seen me cry before. My socially conditioned side wanted to hideBut if we can't even feel comfortable with what we really feel, it's not worth living by the rules of this society.
Promise me one thing: You will never feel ashamed for crying again. Whatever it is. The reasons for your tears will always be more valid than the reasons for holding them back.
I hope this helps. I, as always, wait for you in the next one. Feel free to share your thoughts and reflections by leaving a comment below.
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